Select people that are going to fight for you and your significant other. Choose a friend, family member, counselor, or pastor that you know will be safe for you to share your struggle with. If our close friends and family can confirm how you have been wronged, it is much easier to justify our indignation.Ī wiser course of action would be to confide in a trusted and unbiased party. It is our selfish nature to want to “build support” for our case and one way we do that is to gather biased support for our point-of-view. One reflex we all have to resist is when we feel wronged we want to dish out all the details of our situation to anyone who will listen. Photo Credit: ©Unsplash/Christian Fregnan Here are a few ideas of what not to do when you feel scorned by your significant other. This phrase has been interpreted to mean that a woman who has felt rejected or betrayed can be a powerful force of anger. The whole line actually reads “Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.” This saying originates from The Mourning Bride, a tragic play by English playwright William Congreve from 1697. Taking a moment to pause and pray can help us find a better path forward in our relationships that hopefully leads to healing and reconciliation. When we just let our reflex of anger drive our conversations, we only end up adding insult to injury. Pausing to evaluate our feelings first, is a better way to handle the moments when we feel hurt, unseen, or betrayed by our partners. I know when I start feeling “wronged” by my husband, I start answering his questions with cold one-word answers, I shoot annoyed glares his way, and when he finally asks what is wrong I tend to angrily unload my frustration on him.ĭespite knowing that my “go to” responses to frustrating situations help no one in our home, it is a struggle to not let anger and resentment harden my heart. While this phrase can exemplify gender stereotypes in a negative way, it is true for all humans that when we are hurt our natural response is anger, indignation, and it can be a struggle to find room in our hearts to forgive. “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” is a phrase you may have heard.
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